I used to struggle a lot with my relationships with women. I found myself constantly pushing them away and had a really hard time trusting them. I knew I needed to make a change, but I didn't really know where to start.
Then I met Riz, who specialises in attachment-focused therapy. She helped me understand that my struggles were rooted in my attachment style and that I could learn to become more securely attached through therapy.
At first, I was really resistant to the whole thing. I didn't want to face my issues, and I would get really defensive when Riz pointed things out. But she was really patient with me and helped me understand that this was a process.
We worked on a lot of different techniques, including EMDR, which helped me process some of my past traumas and negative beliefs that were affecting my relationships. Riz also provided a lot of psychoeducation and support that helped me understand my own masculinity in a healthier way.
One of the particularly challenging things for me was my relationship with my mom. I had always struggled to connect with her, and I would often get triggered by things she said or did. But through my commitment to therapy, I was able to see our relationship in a different light. I began to understand how my early experiences had shaped my attachment style and relationship patterns, and I began to work on healing those wounds.
Over time, I started to feel more confident and secure in my relationships with women. I learned how to communicate my needs and boundaries in a healthy way, and I stopped feeling so afraid of getting close to someone. And through my therapy, I was able to develop a deeper understanding of my own masculinity, which has helped me in all areas of my life.
Today, I have a much better relationship with my mom. We still have our challenges, but I'm able to approach those challenges with a new perspective and a newfound sense of compassion.
I know that I still have work to do, but I'm grateful for the progress I've made and the support that Riz provided me along the way.