Many people experience depression or anxiety at some stage of life and need to come to terms with loss, problems with a relationship or difficulty finding meaning. Counselling can assist us with the problems we may encounter and can help us to overcome self-destructive attitudes and behaviour.
Relationships that can benefit from counselling do not even have to be romantic. Business partners, siblings and even best friends may benefit from relationship counselling.
Relationship counselling occurs when two people find that the behaviour patterns of interacting that have been effective throughout the relationship, or that they believed had been effective, are no longer working, or they finally realise that they have never really worked. Working together, we find out what those negative behaviour patterns are, how they arose, how they impact our daily lives and how they can be corrected.
Individual counselling or coaching can be helpful to people dealing with a wide range of situations.
It may be beneficial if you are feeling low, lacking energy and motivation, adjusting to difficult life events such as trauma or loss. You may be experiencing stress or anxiety, wanting to change patterns of behaviour such as habits, addictions, difficulties or dissatisfaction in a relationship with a partner or other family members
Counselling can also be useful if you just feel the need, or desire, to understand yourself better. People often find that they become more self-reflective during the counselling process, which helps them in many areas of their life.
The purpose of couples therapy is to help you rebuild your relationship and stay together. However, if you expressly wish to separate, then couples counselling can also help you to do that more amicably.
In most cases there is a way forward with couples counselling but it requires an effort from both parts and an acceptance that it can be a long and difficult process. This process can be supported by providing a safe and non-judgemental space with complete confidentiality.
Groupwork can help a person grow and know who they are through their relationships with other group members. By exploring the way we relate to others within our group we get to understand ourselves better. We also give ourselves the opportunity to draw links between these group relationships and the way they may be mirroring those in the outside world.
Working in a group can be particularly helpful in understanding recurring patterns of behaviour in relationships. Sometimes this means the group may feel challenging. But at the same time it can be close and confiding as group members support each other in trying to understand themselves better.Many people find support and encouragement in talking confidentially with others who are tackling, and making progress with, similar issues.
The group can surprise us, helping shed light on our 'blind spots'. Sometimes this means realizing that other people see good and valuable qualities in us that we did not realize. Being in a group can also be enjoyable!