Can you relate to any of these statements?

 

Singles

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• l fear that I’ll be repeatedly hurt by love, so I avoid taking any risks or moving closer to anyone

 

• I’m single and feel lonely. I don’t think I’ll never find a ‘good enough’ relationship

 

• I feel frustrated that I keep making the same relationship mistakes over and over again, but I don’t know how to stop

 

• I feel scared and distrustful whenever I get close to someone, so I pull away and keep my distance

 

• I think I’m better off single, alone and lonely than to feel the pain of a bad relationship again

 

• I am terrified that I will never love someone or that no one will ever love me

 

• I feel so scarred by my previous relationship that I have decided that I just don’t ‘do’ relationships

 

• I feel devastated that my partner has left me, and I don’t understand what happened and where I went wrong

 

• I just can’t let go of past relationship hurts and I don’t let anyone get too close

 

Individuals in a relationship

 

• I’m miserable because I don’t know how to communicate so that my partner can really hear me

 

• I’m ambivalent about my relationship and considering leaving my partner. I need to make a decision

 

• I’m constantly angry and picking a fight with my partner and I don’t know how to stop

 

• I feel afraid because I think my partner is going to leave me

 

• I withhold love and sex from my partner to punish them for all the past hurts I’m carrying

 

• I’m feeling lost and alone in my relationship. Something has to change, but what?

 

• I’m sexually attracted to other people and I’m scared I will act on these feelings and hurt my partner

 

• I’m afraid I am beginning to repeat the terrible relationship my parents had

 

• I’m so frightened to be alone that I smother my partner and it’s driving him/her crazy

 

• I feel insecure, clingy and jealous of my partner and can’t trust him/her

 

• I can’t bear to be alone, yet I’m pushing my partner away

 

• I’m constantly cheating and lying to my partner and I don’t understand why

 

Couples

 

• We are so sick of the pain of constant bickering and never-ending arguments about things that never get resolved

 

• We have ongoing anger or resentment towards each other that we can’t seem to manage

 

• Our sexual needs don’t get met and we struggle to talk about sex

 

• We don’t know how to ‘fight fair’, so we are often blaming, criticizing or attacking each other

 

• Our relationship is at a crossroads. There is no joy anymore

 

• We struggle to communicate about the smallest things and often end up feeling miserable after a huge fight

 

• We feel growing resentment and contempt that means we shut each other out for long periods of time

 

• We can’t stop fighting because one of us wants to have children/be married and the other doesn’t

 

• We are struggling to decide whether to end this relationship or work on it

 

Couples in a positive relationship

 

• We have a good relationship and want to make it even better!

 

 

Are you ready to move out of relationship pain?

 

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